Sexy romance does require some research. Here are a few links and books that are my personal selections. It’s not nearly a completed list. There is a wealth of sexual resources and information out there—websites, books, workshops, blogs, and knowledgeable people that offer valuable information and tools to assist and guide you in your sexual journey. I will add to this list as I discover more. This blog does not accept payment for endorsements or reviews of products, books or websites sites.


Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns by Philip Miller and Molly Devon

BDSM The Naked Truth by Dr. Charley Ferrer

The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers by Terry Gould

Opening Up by Tristan Taormino

The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren

New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

SM101 – A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

BDSM for Writers by Dr. Charley Ferrer

How to Write a Dirty Story by Susie Bright

Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes: A Step-by-Step, Illustrated Guides for Tying Sensual and Decorative Rope Bondage by Two Knotty Boys and Larry Utley

The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy by Violet Blue

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taomino

Blogs and Sex Topics:

Alison Tyler– Trollope with a Laptop – Award winning author and editor of erotic fiction. I’ve been a longtime fan of her anthologies and her stories.

Dr. Charley Ferrer – World renowned Clinical Sexologist, award winning author and instructor. Expert of BDSM (Dominance and Submission)

Erotic Readers and Writers Association – I’ve been a member for years and there is a ton of information and links here. Great resource for anyone–readers and writers of the erotic genre. And check out their blog for great topics and excerpts:

Midori – Renowned sex educator, author, artist, and filmmaker.

Rachel Kramer BusselLusty Lady – Another talented author and editor of erotic fiction and articles. Also a speaker and teaches Between the Sheets and excellent workshop on writing and selling erotic fiction.

Susie Bright – Susie Bright’s Journal – Editor, author, publisher, feminist sex writer.

Tristan Taormino – Pucker Up – Tristan is an author, editor, columnist, sex educator, speaker, feminist filmmaker, and radio host.

Violet BlueTiny Nibbles – Award winning sex author and columnist, speaker and educator.


Sex and Sex Health:

American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists – – Non-profit devoted to promoting the understanding of human sexuality and healthy sexual behavior.

Creative Sexuality – Information, online workshops on a broad range of topics in adult sexuality; sexual health; relationship issues; and diverse lifestyles, orientations, and sexual practices.  LGBTQI friendly

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom NCSF is an advocate for consenting adults in the BDSM-Leather-Fetish, Swing, and Polyamory Communities.

PFLAG – Federation of Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, Inc. The nation’s largest organization uniting people who are LGBTQ with parents, families, friends and allies.

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention – STDs Facts and Information

National HIV Testing Resources (US) – Locate a confidential testing facility near you.

Toxic Sex Toys – The science geek in me found this site informative, helpful and entertaining.

Woodhull Freedom Foundation – American organization working to advance the recognition of sexual, gender, and family diversity.

Psychology Tomorrow Magazine  – A variety of feature article on Sex, Lust, Love LGBTQ, Sexual Abuse, and more.

Alternative Groups and more:

National Leather Association International – A contemporary BDSM organization based in the USA. NLA-I is a pansexual organization has chapters all over the US and Canada

Foundation for a Sex Positive Culture – promotes sex is beneficial through education, outreach, the arts, advocacy, and research programs that serve the public.

Fetlife – A free social community for BDSM and Kinksters.

The BDSM Events Page – BDSM organizations by state

The Metro Underground – a listing of clubs in the DC, Baltimore, Richmond, Philadelphia and Mid-Atlantic region.

TES – The Eulenspiegel Society a not-for-profit BDSM, leather, and fetish group dedicated to social interaction, education, and support.